πππππππ ππ πππ π ππππ-π πππ πππ π ππππ ππ ππ πππ ππππ πππππππ ππ ππππππππ.
Two years ago, at the same time, I lost one of my best friends due to differences in our opinions. Thinking that it was just an opinion, I thought she would be okay with accepting my opinion, and we would both become friends again.
But it didn’t happen that way. The crack in the friendship didn’t mend, and we both were compelled to take our own path in life.
The process of separation was quite painful, as my present at that time reaffirmed my past failures of losing friends as my mistake and stupidity.
Trust me, breaking up with your dear friend is worse than a romantic breakup. I mean, where do you even go when the only person who was your confidant has now become your enemy?
It was time to deal with the devastation of losing someone you always thought would have your back. It was time to acknowledge that all friendships are not meant ‘FOREVER’. It was time to accept the ‘failure ‘in the relationship.
I am a firm believer that there is no such thing as ‘ moving on’ or ‘getting over’. I chose to experience complete failure in the relationship. I chose to accept and take 100% responsibility for the crack in the relationship.
I don’t know how men think, but we women cannot treat ‘failure’ as a practical mistake. We take it seriously. Probably, we have seen our mothers being present in all the relationships in the family. We have seen our mothers make big or small but invisible sacrifices for the family. We have observed her putting family members before her own desires and interests. We have seen her not accept failure when it comes to taking care of relationships. This is somehow genetic, I understand.
Back to why I am sharing this because I think ‘fail, failed, or failure’ are the words women must become comfortable with. We must accept that we cannot please everybody in the relationship or at work. We are allowed to drop our guns. We are allowed to make mistakes. We are allowed to fail.
When we accept failure, we can then start thinking about what the best thing I can do now is. It is a starting point to get wherever you want to go.
Today I enjoy some great things because failure has become my best friend.
1. I finally found true friendship in my family members. I don’t outsource it anymore.
2. Wrote an e-book
3. Running two businesses
4. I have some really high-quality girlfriends who share a similar mindset.
5. I can understand women better now.
Failure can either become your friend or your enemy, and you choose which is better for you.
